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Make a True Decision and Get On With It!

I'll spare you the new year, new me talk. This is about crafting a clear vision of what you want in 2021 and then committing to yourself to make it happen regardless of any obstacles you might face. It's your Rubicon moment! No plan B.

The Coach's Notes 30

When in do-mode, I find it hard to make time to sit and reflect. My body gets agitated. My mind rebels and acts like a toddler, easily distracted, wandering off to chase the next shiny object. The best I can do is squeeze out a few sentences at a time. But really, the best thing for me to do is MOVE! So that’s what I did. And I brought my audio recorder along to capture the flow of my thoughts.


In this episode of the Coach's Notes, I share 4 key questions to ask yourself when faced with uncertainty.

Stress and the Overextended Persona

In this episode, Clay and Nicola talk about the Overextended Persona in the Lumina Spark Model and how the persona relates to stress.

Leading a Team in a Pandemic World

In this episode of the Coach's Notes, I get together with a couple of my friends, Jennifer Brown and Lynsey Weir, who are also leadership coaches, to talk about what they have been finding out in the field as they interact with leaders coming to grips with leading teams, many of them remotely, in a pandemic world.

Soothing Soul

A coffee contemplation exercise...

Resilience and Dealing with Uncertainty

In this episode, I catch with Coach Andy Chandler to talk about what it takes to be resilient and deal with uncertainty in a time of crisis.

Take what's useful, disregard the rest

For all my friends in the UK, welcome to Lockdown 2020, week number 6. I hope you had a fabulous weekend and managed to get some sun (in your back garden of course!). This week has started off quite reflective for me. During my morning reading period, I couldn’t concentrate. All of the stuff that has been percolating in my head this past week was now ready to surface. And so I got dressed and headed out in to the back garden to let it come. I captured some of my thoughts on tape for the Coach’s Notes. There are still a few things to unpack, but now I need to roll on with the day. Take care,Clay

Back to morning pages

Today I returned to a practice I haven't done in a while, a practice called morning pages. In this episode of the Coach's Notes, I recap on the practice and what led me back to it.

What the Big 5 Personality Test Reveals [podcast]

Audio podcast version here. For the video version go here. I'm a big fan of behavioral style profiles and personality tests. I think they're a great place for you to start your self-development journey. Tests like these give you a basic insight into your underlying motivations and behavioral style preferences. And this goes a long way in heightening your self-awareness. As the saying goes, that which you are aware of you can control, that which you are unaware of controls you! Over the Easter break, I took some time out to do a little self-development using the Big 5 Personality Test. In the video, I'll tell you what led me here and what I found. In a nutshell, the Big Five personality test measures the five personality factors that psychologists have determined are core to our personality makeup. The Five Factors of personality are: Openness - How open a person is to new ideas and experiencesConscientiousness - How goal-directed, persistent, and organized a person isExtraversion - How much a person is energized by the outside worldAgreeableness - How much a person puts others' interests and needs ahead of their ownNeuroticism - How sensitive a person is to stress and negative emotional triggers In the video, I share my results with you. For the most part, I wasn't too surprised how are scored in the Big 5, but what did surprise me was some of the personality patterns the test revealed. I'm going to have to spend some time unpacking those. I said I'd share my full report with, so here it is. If you do decide to take the test, you can take it for free here. Let me know how you get on.

Rethinking my relationship with the rhythm of time

Day 8 of lockdown and I'm beginning to rethink my relationship with time and establishing a new rhythm that is not tied to the industrial revolution construct of time.

Some thoughts on remote working

In today's 'cast, I share some thoughts on remote working for people who may be new to this way of working. You can follow this link and listen to the episode or find me on Apple Podcasts and subscribe and have The Coach's Notes delivered straight to you. Search: The Coach's Notes.

More Than Interesting Times

Musing over the state of affairs we find ourselves in with Coronavirus.

Why You Shouldn't Worry About the Path You Choose

Many of us Gen X types are standing at a crossroads in life wondering which path we should choose next. Staying on the same path no longer seems a viable option. But which path should we choose?

My Dragon Is Bigger Than Yours!

We all have our dragons to slay.

The Secret to Making Better Decisions: Identify Your Authentic Core Values and Make Them Explicit

Most people don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what their core values are. Be honest…if I asked you right now what are your authentic core values, could you rattle them off without hesitation? Could you tell me how you arrived at the core values you hold? And could you tell me how you use them to navigate your daily decisions? The truth is, most people can’t. Sure, we have an intrinsic idea about the values we hold, but do we know them explicitly, in other words, can you really articulate them, and do you know how they play out in your day to day life. What are core values anyway? A simple definition: your core values are the fundamental beliefs you hold as centrally important to your life and well-being. They are the guiding principles that dictate your behaviour and they help you understand the difference between right and wrong within the context of your life. There are several reasons why it’s important to explicitly name your authentic core values: They help guide your life toward more noble goals rather than self-serving motives, bad habits, impulses or accidental occurrences.They inspire you to live a more meaningful life.When you live up to your core values, it boosts your self-esteem.Vaguely knowing your values causes you more stress and sets the conditions for you to lose your way a lot in life. 3 Useful Similies I picked these up from Marc Alan Schelske. In his book, Discovering Your Authentic Core Values, he likens authentic core values to a compass, a water filter, and a homing pigeon. Like a compass, your core values can help you re-orient yourself when life becomes confusing. Like a water filter, your core values help you decide how to spend your time wisely. As you know, there’s a lot of competition for our attention, explicitly knowing your core values helps you decided what gets your attention and what you can walk away from. Like a homing pigeon, your core values help draw you back to who you’re supposed to be according to what's centrally important to you. It’s important that you do the work to explicitly identify your authentic core values. Schelske’s book is a good place to start if you need help. Likewise, identifying core values is part of the coaching process I take my client through. Give me a call if that’s something you’d like to discuss. Peace and love to you, Clay

Learning tech, Aldo, and how ideas influence us

I went on my annual pilgrimage to London for the Learning Technologies Conference and exhibition. I met a number of characters from my past, including the dude responsible for getting me into the UK some 20 years ago.

Balancing the "New" Human

A way forward...

You have to stand for something

In this 'cast, we go for a walk in the woods and I share my core values with you and share why it's important to be intimately familiar with your core values.

Sometimes knowledge gets in the way of reality

I'm a dude who loves knowledge, but sometimes knowledge or the search for knowledge can come between you and reality. We get lost in our endless quest for more knowledge.

Pay attention and meet Theo the cat

I have a little conversation with Theo the cat about paying attention.

Firing on all cylinders, quadrants, and levels

I spent some time with Ken Wilber, Terry Patten, Adam Leonard, and Marco Morelli's enlightening book, "Integral Life Practice: a 21st Century Blueprint for Physical Health, Emotional Balance, Mental Clarity, and Spiritual Awareness." One of the things I really love about the book is how they simplified the explanation of the AQAL to make it relatable to life in practice. Music by: ZigZag" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License

What is the longest journey you will ever take?

I'll let you listen to this one to find out.

Self-importance is our greatest enemy

I had to deal with the power leak of self-importance today. And self-importance, as Carlos Castaneda said, is our greatest enemy.

How did you make today count?

Just because it's a cliche doesn't make it any less true. None of us are getting out of this gig alive and one of these days the Universe is going to call your number, so make every day count.

Moment to Moment

The past is no more and the future is not yet: both are unnecessarily moving in directions which don't exist. One used to exist, but no longer exists, one has not even started to exist.Osho

Widen your perception for answers come in many guises

In a world full of distractions, it's sometimes hard to separate the signal from the noise. If you're seeking answers from your Inner Guide, you have to pay close attention because the answer can come to you from anywhere, at any time.


This podcast started out as a simple reflection on potential. I was driving into work today and noticing the various people on the side of the road walking to wherever they were going. Some of them were young. Some were old. As I watched these folks, I began to wonder about their potential. You can hear the rest of the story on the podcast. This afternoon, on a whim, I sent an informal poll out to my WhatsApp friends. The question I asked was this: Which resonates more with you: unlock your potential or unleash your potential? I wasn't expecting what I go back. It seems, unlock resonates more with women; while unleash resonates more with men. Most of the women said unlock was more gentle. They felt unleash was too aggressive. The men sided with unleash because they felt it was more powerful. I concluded the podcast a similar notion as my lawyer friend who said: "The answer would depend on whether the subject knows it's abilities or not."

We're infinitely more than we allow ourselves to be

I recorded this fairly early in the morning, so I may sound a little groggy lol.

How are you showing up for people?

Do you consciously choose how you want to show up for people? Or do you show up however you show up regardless of the effect you might have on others?

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